{"id":3355,"date":"2015-08-02T22:10:46","date_gmt":"2015-08-02T20:10:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/zjarr.tv\/?p=3355"},"modified":"2015-08-02T21:25:11","modified_gmt":"2015-08-02T19:25:11","slug":"formula-matematikore-e-dashurise-se-vertete","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/formula-matematikore-e-dashurise-se-vertete\/","title":{"rendered":"Formula matematikore e dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hannah Fry, professor i matematik\u00ebs n\u00eb Universitetin e Londr\u00ebs q\u00eb ka shkruar librin \u201cMatematika e dashuris\u00eb\u201d, ka identifikuar tri P-t\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur sukses kjo formul\u00eb magjike.<\/div>\n
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N\u00ebse jeni KRENAR + PROAKTIV\u00cb + PROVOKUES<\/strong>, at\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb bini n\u00eb dashuri.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb vazhdim po ju sqarojm\u00eb se si funksionon kjo.
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\nKRENAR<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u00ebhuni krenar me vetveten dhe veproni \u201dn\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn q\u00eb ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb dalloheni apo t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm\u201d, k\u00ebshillon Fry. K\u00ebto nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm fjal\u00eb, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb t\u00eb dokumentuara edhe n\u00eb hulumtimin e faqes OkCupid nga matematicienti dhe themeluesi, Christian Rudder.<\/p>\n

Tek faqja, pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsit vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri tjetrin n\u00eb at\u00eb se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb atraktiv, nga shkalla prej 1-10. Rudder ka zgjedhur selektim t\u00eb pacaktuar t\u00eb 5000 femrave nga faqja, dhe ka matur mesataren e \u201catraktivitetit\u201d n\u00eb at\u00eb se sa mesazhe kan\u00eb pranuar brenda muajit.<\/p>\n

Ai ka ardhur n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim se femrat q\u00eb kan\u00eb pranuar nj\u00eb rangim t\u00eb gj\u00ebr\u00eb vler\u00ebsimesh jan\u00eb dalluar nga ato femra, q\u00eb me pajtimin e secilit, ishin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb stereotype t\u00eb bukura dhe t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb marr\u00eb vler\u00ebsime t\u00eb larta.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebshtuq\u00eb, mos e gjykoni shum\u00eb ashp\u00ebr veten tuaj kundrejt t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, jinni krenar p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ju b\u00ebn unike dhe p\u00ebrdorni k\u00ebt\u00eb ve\u00e7ori si \u201casset\u201d p\u00ebr veten tuaj.<\/p>\n

PROAKTIV\u00cb<\/strong>\u00a0(Proaktive)<\/p>\n

Parimisht, vendosni se \u00e7ka d\u00ebshironi dhe pastaj b\u00ebjeni.<\/p>\n

Fry shpjegon skenarin tradicional \u201cmashkulli e k\u00ebrkon femr\u00ebn\u201d. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb mashkull fillon t\u00eb kontaktoj\u00eb me ndonj\u00eb fem\u00ebr dhe refuzohet nga ajo, \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb se ai do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr fem\u00ebr deri sa t\u00eb gjej\u00eb ndonj\u00eb q\u00eb mund ti b\u00ebhet partner i tij. Duke p\u00ebrcjellur k\u00ebt\u00eb algorit\u00ebm, secili do t\u00eb gjej\u00eb partnerin adekuat.<\/p>\n

Por, n\u00ebse mendoni rreth k\u00ebsaj, ata persona q\u00eb jan\u00eb proactive n\u00eb t\u00eb vepruar dhe k\u00ebrkuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb normale se do t\u00eb arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb partner m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb se sa ato q\u00eb thjesht\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb prapa dhe vet\u00ebm presin q\u00eb ndokush tu afrohet.<\/p>\n

Duke gjetur zon\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb komfortit, mund t\u00eb keni shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb hapura p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur persona t\u00eb llojit t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm se sa vet\u00ebm t\u00eb prisni p\u00ebr ndok\u00ebnd q\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00eb kurajon t\u2019ju afrohet.<\/p>\n

PROVOKATIV\u00cb<\/strong>\u00a0(Provokues)<\/p>\n

Edhepse ky nuk ting\u00ebllon si nj\u00eb tipar atraktiv, Fry nuk pajtohet dhe sugjeron se duhet t\u00eb flisni rreth gj\u00ebrave q\u00eb ju pengojn\u00eb. Matematicient\u00ebt jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb shanset e lidhjes suaj si t\u00eb sukseshme, duke u bazuar n\u00eb at\u00eb se sa jeni n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb argumentoni.<\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb eksperiment nga psikologu John Gottman, ka regjistruar qindra bisedime t\u00eb b\u00ebra nga \u00e7iftet e martuara, dhe ka ardhur n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se ajo \u00e7far\u00eb u ndodh\u00eb \u00e7ifteve \u00ebsht\u00eb si rezultat i komunikimit dhe m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb t\u00eb argumentuarit. Hulumtuesit kan\u00eb regjistruar presionin e gjakut t\u00eb \u00e7ifteve, p\u00ebr\u00e7ueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e l\u00ebkur\u00ebs dhe rrahjet e zemr\u00ebs si dhe kan\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar p\u00ebrmbajtjen e bisedimeve.<\/p>\n

Ata ishin n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb zbulonin edhe se cil\u00ebt \u00e7ifte kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa p\u00ebr tu divorcuar. \u00c7iftet t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ishin t\u00eb hapur ndaj nj\u00ebri tjetrit dhe t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb n\u00eb emocionet e tyre, kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse q\u00eb t\u00eb mbijetonin se sa ata q\u00eb q\u00ebndronin t\u00eb heshtur.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebshtuq\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb formula q\u00eb realisht funksionon p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillt\u00eb. Madje, nuk keni nevoj\u00eb as p\u00ebr kalkulator!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Hannah Fry, professor i matematik\u00ebs n\u00eb Universitetin e Londr\u00ebs q\u00eb ka shkruar librin \u201cMatematika e dashuris\u00eb\u201d, ka identifikuar tri P-t\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur sukses kjo formul\u00eb magjike. N\u00ebse jeni KRENAR + PROAKTIV\u00cb + PROVOKUES, at\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb bini n\u00eb dashuri. N\u00eb vazhdim po ju sqarojm\u00eb se si funksionon kjo. KRENAR B\u00ebhuni krenar me […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2044,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[234],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3355","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-kuriozitete"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3355","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2044"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3355"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3355\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3355"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3355"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3355"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}