{"id":54569,"date":"2018-12-15T17:54:59","date_gmt":"2018-12-15T16:54:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/?p=54569"},"modified":"2018-12-15T17:54:59","modified_gmt":"2018-12-15T16:54:59","slug":"motra-me-kerkon-te-bej-nje-femije-per-te","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/motra-me-kerkon-te-bej-nje-femije-per-te\/","title":{"rendered":"Motra m\u00eb k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Gjith\u00e7ka ka nisur 6 muaj m\u00eb par\u00eb, pas martes\u00ebs s\u00eb motr\u00ebs sime. Ajo kishte 3 vjet e fejuar dhe p\u00ebrpara gjasht\u00eb muajve u martuan. Si t\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u00e7iftet e reja edhe motra ime dhe kunatin donin nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe sipas th\u00ebnieve t\u00eb tyre kishin rreth nj\u00eb vit q\u00eb tentonin q\u00eb motra t\u00eb mbetej shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb, por pa ia arritur. Menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas martes\u00ebs ata nis\u00ebn t\u00eb b\u00ebnin analizat dhe vizitat tem mjeku gjinekolog, p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebnin q\u00eb m\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb kishin nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Pas vizitave t\u00eb holl\u00ebsishme, mjeku i tha motr\u00ebs se ajo kishte problemin dhe nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebnte f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Mund ta imagjinoni se \u00e7far\u00eb drame ishte kjo p\u00ebr motr\u00ebn time, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm 25 vje\u00e7e. Muajt e par\u00eb kaloi n\u00eb depresion, por familja ime dhe bashk\u00ebshorti e kan\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetur shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga ajo gjendje stresi q\u00eb kaloi. Pas trajtimeve me psikolog dhe neve q\u00eb i q\u00ebndruam af\u00ebr n\u00eb \u00e7do moment m\u00eb n\u00eb fund motra kaloi m\u00eb t\u00eb keqen dhe tani \u00ebsht\u00eb pak m\u00eb mir\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb jam ndjer\u00eb tejet e lumtur dhe e g\u00ebzuar, q\u00eb motra u b\u00eb pak m\u00eb mir\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht se m\u00eb dhemb n\u00eb shpirt q\u00eb ajo nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoj\u00eb emocionin e m\u00ebm\u00ebsis\u00eb. Gjithsesi problemi, apo shqet\u00ebsimi im erdhi tre jav\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, kur motra erdhi n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb time bashk\u00eb me kunatin dhe k\u00ebrkuan q\u00eb t\u00eb flisnin me ne. Ata na than\u00eb se do donin shum\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb kishin nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe meqen\u00ebse nuk kan\u00eb qejf t\u00eb adoptojn\u00eb dik\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb shohin si zgjidhje dhe mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr ta. Un\u00eb jam e martuar dhe kam dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb, nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb djal\u00eb. Nga kjo k\u00ebrkes\u00eb t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn u shokuam edhe un\u00eb edhe bashk\u00ebshorti, nd\u00ebrsa ata na k\u00ebrkuan q\u00eb t\u00eb mendoheshim dhe kur t\u00eb ishim gati t\u2019ju jepnim nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje. Gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs motr\u00ebs dhe kunatit iu mbush\u00ebn syt\u00eb me lot, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb ndihesha tmerr\u00ebsisht keq p\u00ebr hallin q\u00eb kan\u00eb ata, por edhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebrkes\u00ebn q\u00eb na b\u00ebn\u00eb neve. Nuk e imagjinoj dot q\u00eb t\u00eb mbaj n\u00ebnt\u00eb muaj n\u00eb bark nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe t\u2019ia jap dikujt tjet\u00ebr. Kjo situat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe nuk di \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj. Motra m\u00eb dhimbset n\u00eb shpirt dhe dua me gjith\u00eb zem\u00ebr q\u00eb ta ndihmoj, por edhe k\u00ebshtu nuk e kisha imagjinuar se do ndihesha ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Nuk jam v\u00ebn\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs sime. E diskutojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb prej tre jav\u00ebsh dhe akoma nuk kemi arritur q\u00eb t\u00eb bindemi se, cila \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb. Ndjehem shum\u00eb n\u00eb ankth dhe kam thuajse tre jav\u00eb pa gjum\u00eb. Motra m\u00eb telefonon thuajse \u00e7do dit\u00eb duke qar\u00eb dhe m\u00eb thot\u00eb se ndjehet bosh dhe e panevojshme, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb nuk e di n\u00ebse mundem ta p\u00ebrballoj di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb. Kam pyetur disa njer\u00ebz p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb histori dhe kam k\u00ebrkuar mendim se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj un\u00eb, por askush nuk m\u00eb jep nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, m\u00eb thon\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim q\u00eb na takon vet\u00ebm neve. Bashk\u00ebshorti im thot\u00eb se, n\u00ebse pranojm\u00eb do jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe do ta kemi pishman gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn, pasi do ta shohim f\u00ebmij\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb rritet dhe nuk do t\u00eb na th\u00ebrras\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e baba. Ai m\u00eb thot\u00eb se duhet t\u00eb mendohemi mir\u00eb, pasi nuk do kemi asnj\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb mbi at\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe \u00e7far\u00ebdo q\u00eb t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb kur ai t\u00eb rritet ne do ndjehemi keq, apo sikur di\u00e7ka na mungon. Ai ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, por un\u00eb dua q\u00eb ta ndihmoj motr\u00ebn time. Uroj q\u00eb ju lexues t\u00eb gazet\u00ebs t\u00eb m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb mendim m\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe ndihm\u00eb p\u00ebr gj\u00ebn\u00eb e duhur q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj. Shpresoj q\u00eb dikush me ndonj\u00eb eksperienc\u00eb t\u00eb ngjashme t\u00eb m\u00eb jap\u00eb nj\u00eb mendim se si b\u00ebhet di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb dhe si ndjehesh kur e dhuron at\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb e ke ushqyer me gjakun t\u00ebnd p\u00ebr 9 muaj.\u00a0<strong>Me respekt, Diana!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gjith\u00e7ka ka nisur 6 muaj m\u00eb par\u00eb, pas martes\u00ebs s\u00eb motr\u00ebs sime. Ajo kishte 3 vjet e fejuar dhe p\u00ebrpara gjasht\u00eb muajve u martuan. Si t\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u00e7iftet e reja edhe motra ime dhe kunatin donin nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe sipas th\u00ebnieve t\u00eb tyre kishin rreth nj\u00eb vit q\u00eb tentonin q\u00eb motra t\u00eb mbetej shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb, por [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2013,"featured_media":54570,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[334,194,235],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-54569","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-histori","8":"category-lifestyle","9":"category-vendi"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/54569","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2013"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=54569"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/54569\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/54570"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=54569"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=54569"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=54569"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}