Ne shpesh flasim me veten, jo vet\u00ebm kur humbasim \u00e7el\u00ebsat n\u00eb \u00e7ant\u00eb apo n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Por ngrihet pyetja n\u00ebse t\u00eb flas\u00ebsh me vet\u00ebn, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka prej t\u00eb \u00e7mendurish apo t\u00eb vetmuarish? Nj\u00eb studim i publikuar tek \u201cThe Conversation\u201d, zbulon se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebrkundrazi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aktivitet shum\u00eb i domosdosh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
Monolog n\u00eb heshtje<\/p>\n
Le ta nisim me dialog\u00ebt e brendshme, q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nuk i d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb. B\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr biseda mjaft serioze q\u00eb ne i imagjinojm\u00eb me mendjen ton\u00eb gjat\u00eb nat\u00ebs dhe dit\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb organizuar e planifikuar veprime, duke konsoliduar kujtimet dhe bashk\u00ebpunuar me emocionet. Me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, arrijm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mbajm\u00eb veten n\u00eb kontroll dhe dim\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Z\u00eb q\u00eb koordinohet<\/p>\n
Kur kryejm\u00eb nj\u00eb veprim dhe nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht flasim rreth tij, ky quhet nj\u00eb dialog i koordinuar. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast truri i njeriut aktivizohet m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Nga kjo del se dialogu i brendsh\u00ebm luan nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm edhe pse jo ekskluziv t\u00eb veprimeve tona.<\/p>\n
Kur z\u00ebri i brendsh\u00ebm t\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb tortur\u00eb<\/p>\n
E folura me veten mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrues i keq. N\u00eb tre t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit, e gjitha ajo q\u00eb d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndalemi s\u00eb menduari dhe t\u00eb flem\u00eb gjum\u00eb, por mendimet tona na torturojn\u00eb. Z\u00ebri i brendsh\u00ebm nuk ndalet, ndon\u00ebse ju doni fort q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar prej z\u00ebrit t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm lexoni nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb shtriheni p\u00ebr t\u00eb fjetur sepse kjo do t\u00eb ju b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndalni s\u00eb foluri me veten dhe t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoheni. Tek njer\u00ebzit e prekur nga ankthi apo depresioni, k\u00ebto dialog\u00eb t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen shurdhues dhe t\u00eb na pengojn\u00eb neve q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb normale. Zhdukja e zhurm\u00ebs q\u00eb nga torturon s\u00eb brendshmi, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin psikologjik.<\/p>\n
M\u00eb z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb<\/p>\n
Shpesh k\u00ebto dialog\u00eb t\u00eb heshtur e gjejn\u00eb shfryrjen tek e folura me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb, edhe pse askush nuk po na d\u00ebgjon. Ndodh sidomos n\u00eb ato moment q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrim t\u00eb lart\u00eb: si p\u00ebr shembull kur ju jeni duke lexuar udh\u00ebzime q\u00eb iu lejon nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrim m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb dhe rrit kontrollin mbi detyr\u00ebn. N\u00eb fakt duket si nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb inkurajuar veten dhe p\u00ebr ta drejtuar at\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb eksplicite q\u00eb t\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb drejt q\u00ebllimit t\u00eb paracaktuar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ne shpesh flasim me veten, jo vet\u00ebm kur humbasim \u00e7el\u00ebsat n\u00eb \u00e7ant\u00eb apo n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Por ngrihet pyetja n\u00ebse t\u00eb flas\u00ebsh me vet\u00ebn, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka prej t\u00eb \u00e7mendurish apo t\u00eb vetmuarish? Nj\u00eb studim i publikuar tek \u201cThe Conversation\u201d, zbulon se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebrkundrazi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aktivitet shum\u00eb i domosdosh\u00ebm. Monolog n\u00eb heshtje Le ta […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2044,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[233,206],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-46883","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-shendeti","7":"category-shkence"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2044"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46883"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46883\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zjarr.tv\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}